Ditch the "Fat Chat." Stop the "Body Bashing."
This is an interesting concept for me. For me, it's not so much the "chat" that I have an issue with but. Typically, I keep quiet about myself if others are "fat chatting." I try to keep a pretty positive attitude when around others because I know that negativity breeds negativity no matter what the situation. I also realize that this chatter usually is with women who see me as very thin and fit and healthy even though I don't always feel that way. I learned early on that if I mentioned my body image issues, I was immediately refuted and dismissed due to their vision of me.
"Body bashing," on the other hand, is what I need to work to get rid of. While I am very quiet about my feelings about my body on the outside, the voices on the inside are usually shouting and not very nice. I have got to work on quieting those voices and turning them into positive thinking. I have to learn to stop myself when I feel inclined to put myself down and when I hear those negative thoughts taking over. I need to kill those negative thoughts with positivity and strength.
While you might be seeing things as what's wrong with what you are doing towards your body, this is one place where you can really celebrate what is right-- it's great that you aren't "fat talking"- that is usually a hard habit for women to break- and the book will soon have you tackle the private conversations in your head, too. Thanks for sharing your journey! Rosie
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